Dear sir , I am a 25 year old practicing muslimah . I am ready to get married and my parents are searching for prospective spouse for me . I am also reading Quran and praying salatul Hazat. My question is I like a certain guy whose biodata came to me but I was confused about sending him my biodata so I prayed istikhara and in my mother's dream we saw that the guy's parent would accept me as a wife but still i continued to pray the istikhara and then went to an imam to know about the character of the guy because we heard few bad words about the guy and the Imam ensured that the guy I like is not bad and a good person. ( This Imam is a reputed and trusted imam and does not deal with evil jinns )
But I still wanted to wait as i know that spouse are already decreed by Allah ( S.W.T ) . But few days ago I wanted to pray again but the problem is i am scared that now I might see that he isn't the one for me in my answer to istikhara prayer as I am not getting any clear understanding of my dreams after doing istikhara again . Also I don't want to be paranoid as well thinking about someone constantly which is a toxic act.
Point to be noted that I moved on from this guy once hearing bad rumours about him but then after prayers for marriage & reciting Quran the guy's biodata came to me so I felt the desire to know about him again please enlighten me about the hard time I am going through as i don't want to waste my precious time on someone who is not meant for me. May Allah ( S.W.T ) bless you
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
الجواب وباللہ التوفیق
First of all, it is not acceptable in the Shari'ah to self-praise and to consider oneself virtuous. Whoever is blessed with goodness, should give thanks to the Almighty for this.
As for the issue of marriage, if the boy is pious and is reasonably employed, and while the “Istikharah” is also seemingly in favor; there is nothing wrong with marrying him after consulting and seeking consent of elders of the household.
Let go of your worries. Your parents are in the best position to scrutinize the matter in your best interest and will make necessary arrangements for your marriage.
فقط واللہ اعلم بالصواب