I regularly watch reknown scholars Islamic lectures, follow Islamic blogs and feel that I am connected to Allah with all these. Its not that I do not sin. Like every human, I am a sinner too and sometimes misbehave with my parents. When I misbehave with my mom she says my watching Islamic videos and content to gain better understanding of deen is all waste and infact ruining my Akhirah because I argue with her. Does that mean all my good deeds are going in vain ?
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
الجواب وباللہ التوفیق
First of all, it should be borne in mind that just as there is a command in Islamic law for men to lower their gazes in front of women, there is also a command for women not to look at men, so be sure to take care of it.
Secondly, there are many famous scholars in modern times, who are among the people of truth, and also among them are the people of falsehood. Therefore, it is the responsibility of everyone to find out who can be listened to, and who is not worthy of attending to.
As for rudeness towards one’s parents, it is not permissible in any case. It is forbidden in the Holy Qur’an to even say “Uff” (a word of disrespect) to them, let alone they are treated immorally and discourteously. There are stern warnings of divine punishment regarding such behavior, and ruin of this world and the hereafter. So apologize to her and never do that again.
If you ever need to make her understand something or explain an issue, try to do that in a polite and humble way. If she still does not agree then she is held responsible for her own actions. Your job is to convey the truth to her. If she becomes angry or scolds you for that, it would be considered unfair on her part.
فقط واللہ اعلم واتم